Can you believe it – we have had the kids home for one month already! Wow! What an adventure it has been. I am still so amazed by all that they have gone through and the way they have handled things.
We still get some tears every once in awhile. Yesterday Beza cried a bit. She usually can’t stop to tell me why and so I end up playing 20 questions – the answer to all of which was “no” yesterday so I’m not really sure what she was crying about.
They are both starting to test some limits a bit when we ask them to do something and they take their sweet time doing it. So we are working to get across the “do it now” idea.
We also had a little discussion today that everything mom says is not a “promise”. When I say – “It’s time to eat dinner, we will finish this movie tomorrow.” it doesn’t mean that NO MATTER WHAT we will finish the movie. When mom says “I promise” it is only for stuff I KNOW I can keep no matter what – like “I promise I’ll always love you”.
The food issues are about the same or improving slightly. We aren’t getting the tears at the table anymore and the pre-eating pout doesn’t seem to last quite as long. We’re still testing out new foods though too so I’m sure it will continue.
The kids are still learning how to play with toys and play pretend, but they love the trampoline, riding bikes and playing at the park. They’re becoming pretty good on the computer as well. We have still not broken our “no video games” rule for now. Before we do that I have to figure out a good system for sharing the time, etc. As it is they can only play video games on weekends and only for 1 hour per day. I’m thinking about doing a sign up schedule or something. If you have any bright ideas let me know.
They are loving school and doing really well considering the language difficulties they have to overcome.
Beza is becoming much more open with giving hugs. Tonight when I put them to bed she even stood up on her bed to give Natalie (on the top bunk) a kiss. The girls are really getting along great. They love to match their clothes and every night Beza insists on waiting for Natalie so they can brush teeth together. I haven’t really seen them fight over anything yet.
I’d love to see the boys really develop a friendship but I know that is going to be a little longer in the making, especially considering Noah’s personality. He is very much of a take-charge, do it my way and yet sometimes reclusive person. He definitely needs his own space sometimes and is having a little more difficulty sharing his things. We continue to take these things a bit at a time. I know it is a huge adjustment for him, sharing a room, sharing his things. We can’t expect it all to be resolved overnight.