It’s been 15 months since Beza and Luke came home from Ethiopia and joined our family. Obviously things have steadily improved since that time. But we seem to have crossed a major bridge without me even realizing we were on our way over it.
I’m not sure what happened, but it seems like the siblings have finally clicked and found their groove together. The sniping has diminished, they’re joining each other in activities without fighting over who is in control and just generally getting along better.
Last night at grandpa’s birthday party the boys were playing catch, then playing with the Little People the girls had brought out … of course they were launching them into the air and making their heads “explode”. The girls spent 6 hours with me today cleaning up the park with the Girl Scouts and then being trekked to the far side of town to IKEA. No fights – not one. No rude voices. No sulking.
It’s nothing short of amazing!
Now obviously I don’t think that they’re never going to fight but I’m happy to see them really “gelling” with each other. They dynamics between the four are pretty interesting.
Noah is more of a loner and quiet play time. If he can’t play video games then he will most likely choose LEGOs (which he can do for HOURS) or reading. When he does get outside to play he’s likely to invent some new game and get the kids to participate. Unfortunately they seem to be accident prone games but we do our best.
Luke is more outgoing and active. His first choice would be riding bikes, shooting baskets, jumping on the trampoline. Anything with movement. He loves to be silly. He is starting to like to read more and more and enjoys reading Noah’s LEGO magazines. (Further proof that we’re making progress – Noah lets him w/o argument.)
Beza we have discovered is a mixture of outgoing/introvert. She definitely likes to be active – jumping on the trampoline, tumbling, etc. (She’s determined to be able to do the splits.) But there are definitely times when she needs to just have her space with some sort of quiet activity. She finally feels comfortable saying “Mom, can I go read in your room so I can be alone.”
Natalie – well she’s pretty much silly 24/7. Her and Beza concoct all kinds of games but her and Luke really play well together too – which is nice when Beza wants to be alone.