On the way to a friends house I pass this abandoned, burned out, graffiti’d house.
What do you see when you look at it?
Do you see destruction, despair, loneliness?
I see possibilities.
And I am fascinated.
Every time I drive by I have the urge to drive up the lot, get out and explore. My fear of snakes keeps me safely in my minivan.
I think it’s my love of home improvement projects and decorating that lets me see the possibilities in a house (trust me we’ve a couple gross looking houses over the years).
But I tend to be less about the possibilities and more about the current condition when it comes to other things – like my children. It’s so easy to focus on the negative behaviors (and I’m not saying that they don’t need addressing) and it takes so much of our energy and time that I am left exhausted.
And quite frankly, sometimes I’m just not feelin’ the love, you know what I mean?
Recently I’ve been really convicted about how critical I can be with the kids. I don’t want to be the mom they remember as always nagging them.
I’m starting with making a point to say one super-encouraging thing to each child each day.
Anyone have some creative ideas on how to encourage children? I’m all ears!