Part of the November series “30 Things I Know About Adoption.”
The first time we saw our adoptive kids was on a video.
Living, breathing, moving pictures.
They answered questions about what their favorite subject was and what they liked to play. Then they sang an adorable song, complete with hand motions.
I was enraptured. I must have played it a dozen times those first few days. Luke seemed serious and confident, though a bit quiet. Beza was shy, speaking barely above a whisper. Luke had to nudge her during the song because she wasn’t doing the hand motions.
We saw two other videos during our 12 month process that enforced these personality trait assumptions.
Even our first few weeks with them was expected.
Then they broke out of their shells. More like busted out 🙂
Luke is a complete ham and in constant motion. He climbs and jumps on/over anything possible. A few weeks ago Mark and I watched American Ninja Warrior and the first words out of my mouth were “Don’t tell Luke this is a THING!” He’s silly and fun loving. While not serious, he can be sensitive.
Beza is ALL drama. She is the opposite of quiet and shy. Well, in certain situations she’s still shy but it is definitely not her default.
No matter what you see in pictures or videos, you really don’t know what you’re getting. Even first hand reports may be off. I just spent several days with my brother and his family. They were told their youngest, home since July, was very quiet and serious by the lady who ran the orphanage. Olivia is the exact opposite.
Family changes these kids. Love opens up who they really are deep down inside.
So just be ready. It’s going to be awesome!
If your kids are home, were you surprised by their personalities?