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Tell Stories That Change Stories – Esther Havens @ T4A

10.06.2010 by juliegumm@yahoo.com //

There were many, many reasons why I was excited to attend the Together for Adoption conference and one of the biggies was meeting Esther Havens.

Esther is a humanitarian photographer who travels the world with different organizations helping them document their stories. I first started noticing her work a couple years ago through Charity: Water. She takes positively breath taking photos. Photos that are different although at the time I couldn’t pin point why.

Then I had the privilege of spending an hour on the phone with her one day and I began to understand why her photos are different. Because she is different.

She views her job differently than most photojournalist who are there to capture a moment. A newsworthy moment. And sadly because of the culture we have become those moments seem to be more and more about the sensationalistic and tragic images.

At her session at T4A Esther shared about her early experiences as a photographer and how God began to show her the beauty of the people she was photographing.

That is what makes her pictures so different. She sees the beauty in these people. She sets her camera down and takes time to talk with them and hear their stories. THEN she takes the photos. She showed us some awesome examples of what a person looked like before she talked with them and after. Totally different photographs as far as capturing the true spirit of a person.

Some thoughts I took away from her session:

  • Pictures reflect what we see. If we see African people as sad and poverty-stricken then that’s how they’ll appear in our photos.
  • How does God see this person? And can I help the subject see that?
  • We are the avenue for them to tell their story. We need to “tell stories that change stories”.
  • Can the photo really help them? Is it worth taking the shot? People are more important than photos.
  • Awareness without action is pointless. Use your photos to tell a story and then tell people what they can do to help.

Esther drove home that last point by sharing the story of Watoto and her trip to Uganda to visit their project. They returned with photos and they used those photos to prompt action in two ways. First, there was an amazing display in the exhibit space that showed the photographs and told the subject’s story. Second, they offered people the chance to purchase a photo (the first time she’s done this) either at the exhibit (small postcards) or through Wallblank (check it out to read the stories as well.)

Thanks Esther for sharing your heart and for inspiring a group of people who want to use their photographs to tell stories that change stories.

P.S. If you want to hear more of Esther’s heart behind her photography there’s a great podcast on TechTock.

  • Esther’s Blog
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  • Esther Havens Photography on Facebook

Categories // Featured Articles, Orphans & Social Justice Tags // #t4acon, Esther Havens, non-profits, photography, photos, together for adoption, Watoto

Are We Just Remodeling Hell?

10.05.2010 by juliegumm@yahoo.com //

On Saturday during one of the Together for Adoption conference breakouts Tom Davis made the remark “Building orphanages is like remodeling hell. That is not God’s plan.”

A small collective gasp went up from the audience. I think there were quite a few mouths open as well.

I tweeted the comment and it was obvious the shock carried over into the cyberworld.

It sounds kind of wild doesn’t it? But it is so true.

God’s design is not for hundreds of children to live in large institutional orphanages where rows of bunk beds line the room and paid staff dish out food and little else. Certainly not the nurturing that a mother and father can give.

Yesterday I shared Psalm 68:5 but that passage goes on to say

“God sets the lonely in families…” Ps 68:6

God’s plan for the orphan is a family. Not an orphanage.

That’s one of the reasons why I believe in and work for World Orphans.

Everything we do revolves around the church, the orphan and a family.

At the prevention stage our local church partners identify at-risk children and help keep them in their families by providing food, educational fees, medicines and whatever other needs there are.

If the church knows that the child’s orphaning is imminent (i.e. mom is dying of AIDS) they work diligently to find extended family that will be able to care for the child. If that isn’t available then the next step is to find foster parents from within the church or place the child in the children’s home on the church property. Even that home is a family – 8-12 kids living with houseparents who give them the long term love of a mom and a dad.

The indigenous church has heard God’s cry – maybe more so than the American church. They stand ready to help the orphans of their community but they lack what we have in abundance – resources.

My prayer is that the church as body will wake up and corporately decided that we are done remodeling hell, putting band-aids on wounds that need surgery.

We must help God put the lonely in families.

Categories // Featured Articles, Orphans & Social Justice Tags // adoption, orphanages, World Orphans

Brain overload! Together for Adoption

09.30.2010 by juliegumm@yahoo.com //

Um yeah, I’m not even sure where to really start. I spent 8 hours today drinking from a firehose – a wealth of information on parenting kids from hard places from Dr. Karyn Purvis as well as Michael & Amy Monroe.

You know what I realized?

Wow, we’ve really screwed up.

And hey, we’ve got some stuff right.

Interestingly while I’ve seen a lot of strategies for Beza and Luke I really think it’s our parenting of Noah (our 11 year old bio son) that needs it the most. While you wouldn’t say he is “from a hard place” he suffers many of the same issues as adopted children – ADHD, sensory issues, anxiety. All very interesting to me and of course I wonder hm, where did I mess him up 🙂

I took a ton of notes and at the end of the conference I will put together my cryptic typings and post them for those that want them and feel inclined to try to make sense of them.

But for now a few key highlights

  • There is NO child that cannot come to dramatic healing
  • While we are looking for tools to treat the behaviors, the MOST important thing is the relationship
  • If a child has not gotten it (i.e. love, respect, etc), they cannot give it
  • There is no shelf life to compassion. You can’t say “But they’ve been home 2 years…”
  • Many parents don’t understand that their behaviors caused by THEIR past cause barriers to their relationship w/ the child
  • Attachment is not a feeling it is a “dance” – it is a relationship
  • It has to be us AND the child VS their history (not us against the child)
  • We need to come to our kids with double vision – our perspective and theirs
  • We need to learn how to give “yes” moments from “no” behaviors (give them something to say yes to that will stop the negative behavior)
  • We should be saying “yes” 7 times for every one time we have to say “no”
  • Zero tolerance for disrespect and aggressive behaviors but if we use punitive strategies we will spiral the behavior further downward
  • Your goal is to connect with the child is such a way that they come alongside you, “hook arms” so to speak and you can then guide them through life.
  • When the child knows it’s all about relationship instead of behavior you will be successful

WHEW!

Of course it’s not all work and no fun! Had a great diner with Angel and my 2 new friends – Lorraine Patterson and Amy Block. We talked, ate, talked some more (okay, a LOT more).

Lorraine, Amy, Me (not sure why I look freaked out) and Angel

Then we went back to the hotel and soaked in the hot tub – talked some more. Changed into our pj’s, talked some more. Got Mary Ostyn to come hang out with us and talked some more.

And now it’s 1 a.m. and I am done for the day 🙂

Categories // Featured Articles, Orphans & Social Justice, Post-Adoption

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