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The Baby Years: Baby Steps, Baby Boy

07.30.2010 by juliegumm@yahoo.com //

Part 4 of our Debt-Free Story

So there we were in 1999 – both of us working, living in Dallas now and expecting our first child. We were making good money but it was going out as fast as it came in. We had no real savings and no real plan.

When Noah was born Mark had a job that involved a nearly hour long commute each way and it was during that time that he found Dave Ramsey’s radio show.

I would start to get these little tidbits of “Dave Ramsey says…” or “you should’ve heard this caller” each day. He began working on our budget and talking about the envelope system.

I, on the other hand, was knee deep in diapers and daycare and work and honestly don’t remember paying that much attention. Something about “baby steps” (not Noah’s) and paying off our debt. Sounded good to me. Thus a new budget was born and we began to make some progress on our debt with Mark leading the charge.

We moved back to Arizona the summer of 2000 and it was that fall that Mark dragged me to Financial Peace Live, Dave Ramsey’s live one day seminar that he does around the country. (Well, now they’re called Total Money Makeover Live but it’s the same thing.)

It was there that the light bulb went off for me and I was able to put together all the tidbits that Mark kept bringing home.

Honestly I don’t know how someone could attend one of Dave’s events and NOT come away totally excited and ready to tackle their financial issues.

We left there finally on the same page when it came to our financial future. We left there with THE BABY STEPS.

More next week………

P.S. If you live in Phoenix you need to get yourself to Total Money Makeover Life on Thursday, September 23rd.

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The Happy Pill Debate

07.27.2010 by juliegumm@yahoo.com //

For those of you who have been around here for awhile, you’ve walked through some interesting times with me – the last of which was post-adoption depression that I wrote about here and here.

(If you’ve been around a REALLY long time you got to hear about my first episode of depression.)

Well, mostly because of my laziness in scheduling doctor’s appointments, I went off my anti-depressants about 3 months ago.

It’s this incredibly weird game I play called “Do I still need the pills? Maybe I’ll be fine without them.”

The problem is that the game sometimes takes a REALLY long time to play.

Because the signs are subtle, especially at first. Really it might seem like a really long case of PMS.

I’m irritable, I snap at the kids, I’m moody. Nothing sounds good to eat. And I lose all motivation to do ANYTHING.

But then it starts to effect my concentration and my creativity which in turn effects my job.

Then I get the whole “I don’t feel like me” thing going on.

And yet I still waffle back and forth. Is it bad enough to go back on the meds (and no, I don’t know what “bad enough” is – my definition might be entirely different than my husbands 🙂

I’m fortunate that I don’t have any side effects from the Wellbutrin but still, no one wants to put medicine in their body if it’s not needed.

But alas, it is needed and so I gave up the game.

And am back on what I lovingly refer to as “my happy pills”.

Sanity restored.

Driving our Debt Around

07.23.2010 by juliegumm@yahoo.com //

Part 3 of our Debt-Free Story

As I’ve mentioned, I come from a family who drove cars until they died. In the entire time I grew up I only remember my parents buying 4 cars including the one they had before I was born. One was a 1970 Ford. Then a Pontiac hatchback and two Honda Accords.

The Ford lasted about 17 years before my brother totaled it. One Honda met the same fate (different brother) and the other two were driven until it no longer made sense to repair them. The 3 kids never had their own vehicle but we managed schedules and shared the vehicles w/ our family of 5. There was lots of carpooling and ride sharing going on.

I told Mark early on in our marriage that if it wasn’t a convertible (my dream car) then I didn’t much care what I drove.

When we graduated college I was driving our 92 Nissan Sentra. About three months after we’d moved to San Antonio I got into a fairly minor accident, rear ending someone when my brakes locked up on a wet road. It did a pretty good number on the front of the car despite being pretty low speed.

Suddenly Mark was determined that I needed a “bigger, safer car”. I’d seen the cars Mark had driven in high school. “Bigger” meant “grandma” car. No thank you! We compromised on a Dodge Intrepid which we purchased, trading in the repaired Sentra.

Of course that meant trading in my $156 car payment for a $267 car payment.

A couple years later Mark decided to downgrade the debt he had on his truck. We sold it to his parents and he bought an older used Mazda 626. This seemed like a turning point in our car buying patterns. Our car debt was going down, not up!

Oh wait…

About a year later, Mark got an itch to buy an SUV. We only had about a year of payments left on the Mazda 626 so I pleaded that we not get rid of it. So that meant it became mine and we sold the Intrepid (again to his parents) and bought an ’97 Ford Explorer.

It was during this time that Dave Ramsey implanted himself into our lives and our car buying habits would soon change forever.

By the way – if you’re counting, that’s 4 years of marriage; 6 vehicles.

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The Baby Years: Baby Steps, Baby Boy

The Happy Pill Debate

Driving our Debt Around

Financial Freedom

Taking Advantage of The Housing Boom

I Met Dave!